This morning I woke up to the story that one of the brightest women that I know of has fallen into the trap of “punching up” . Harrison Golden, an eight-year-old Fiorina supporter, who is Muslim, asked the businesswoman after a town hall event she held in southeastern New Hampshire: “Do you think Donald Trump is taking away our rights by not letting Muslims in the country because there’s some terrorist attacks?”
Ms. Fiorina responded: “I think Donald Trump says a lot of things that are crazy.” Soon afterwards, she agreed with the little girl. On Thursday night, came out swinging for Hillary Clinton. And it got very personal: Fiorina said pointedly that “unlike another woman in this race, I actually love spending time with my husband.” —- All marriages have SOME degree of problems…… Hillary Clinton became a “sympathetic” “long suffering” character at that point.
As for the response to the little girl: Instead of saying something benign and “adulty” such as “we might disagree but I don’t believe that he is a moron” —- We have just gone through terrorist attacks on our own soil so it would be “moronic” to believe that there is no threat…. And it was obvious that the stuff that the kid was saying was parroted from the mouths of her tutors — maybe her parents? Looking “big” is part of being a leader. PS. what about the obvious “gender” problems that abound in Islam….. or is that not important?
Nikki Haley, made history by using her rebuttal of the “fantasy filled” last State of the Union address by Obama to “scold” her own party by saying: “During anxious times, it can be tempting to follow the siren call of the angriest voices. We must resist that temptation.” She then went on to chide that we should not be so loud and we all are part of the problem. It seemed less an address and more the Republican “mommy” asking us to all play nicely and use our “inside voices” because anything else is not “helpful”.
In the first instance, I can almost feel the pain and hurt of Ms. Fiorina as she is obviously a very talented and smart woman who is not getting traction in this race. She often touts the fact that Hillary Clinton would be very fearful of meeting her on the debate stage , I am sure that she would but I am also sure that Ms. Fiorina has almost no chance of getting to the point of a Presidential debate ….. unless she is invited guest in the audience. The numbers are just not playing out. AND it is also becoming evident that Hillary might not make it there either without some nefarious “help” from the DNC and the media in stopping Bernie Sanders.
When you play the game of “checkers” instead of “chess” it is important to make quick moves in order to advance. Chess takes some thinking. Some pondering and some calculation. Both women are very ambitious. Is it wise to narrow your choices ? At this point it is highly unlikely that either woman would be on the “short list” for a cabinet position as one comes off now as a “mean girl” and everyone has got a mommy or an aunt or judgmental figure. It makes life easier to visit auntie and not work with her.
If you notice, none of the men in the top corridor have made the same mistakes or fallen into the same traps. Those that have – Lindsey Graham, Rick Perry, and others have fallen by the wayside, so I am not being “gender specific” . Successful men have generally been raised to possess a level of “agentic” goals which stress their need for interpersonal power and aggression. I have several very successful brothers and a successful husband, for example. If you call them ugly, talk about their hair or any other personal insult…… this is ignored because they are wired for their goal and the words you say mean nothing. Only the goal is important. The people on the outside throwing stones end up looking like “little people”.
Girls on the other hand have been raised with the idea that “communal” goals are more important. Communal goals tend to stress the importance of interpersonal behaviors. The need to get approval and the desire to communicate in order to get along is very important in this style of thinking. On the male side, the belief is that “when I win you will like me or go along”. On the female side “You will like me and then I will win”. BTW these are general categories….. some women embody the “agentic” and vice versa.
The final point is that the predominant goal of any winner will be the masculine “agentic” goal. To win the Presidency, sniping, scolding, name calling and chiding or “carrying water for the fellows in the party” will not EVER produce a winner in a field of people accustomed to winning.
But Angela, you say, Hillary is a woman…… Precisely my point, a long time ago she made a decision, that decision was to play chess and it has been a cold, calculating game and yes maybe her marriage is of “convenience” or “ambition” — it would not be the first. Most of the “great ones” were. AND Along the way she has been called every name in the book, she is not particularly attractive nor well-spoken, but the goal was there and was never lost.
Hillary (lover her or hate her) could not care one wit what anyone says and neither could any of the men vying on the Republican side. We must now find a woman in our Republican midst who can do the same.